Girl code 101
The Girl Code Manifesto
Do Not Date Your Best friends ex (Literal full stop).
Even if they split up five months ago this is a definite no go zone, especially if you asked your bestie and she said no. You would think that this universal rule was understood, but apparently some people are still unclear on the matter. The answer is just NO. Are you really willing to risk that friendship for someone who, depending on the circumstances, broke your girls heart, preferred her before you, could still have feelings for her, makes her extremely uncomfortable, causes complications, makes you paranoid ect… It’s as simple as this- If he did or does any of the things above, save yourself a storm cloud full of drama and just don't go there. Also if your best friend used to have a massive crush or was in love the guy, make sure you talk to her about it first and don't take her reaction light heartedly. It's very easy for someone to say it's okay when it's not really.
If a girl is in need of sanitary products and you have them on you, you are obligated by birth to give her a helping hand. Regardless of whether she’s your friend or not. Whether it be at school, the mall or the bathroom at central station you give her the same kindness you would want in that situation.
Don’t compare yourself with any of your friends. You are beautiful, unique and as equally amazing as any other girl. Every girl is a princess. Take it from someone who has a habit of being over competitive and more than on one occasion insecure. It’s just not worth the stress. So if your girls seem to be excelling in life, instead of being jealous be happy for them. Most chances are you are growing too, maybe even in ways that you don’t notice strait away.
4. Give a girl a heads up if she is about to embarrass herself. I don’t mean be a downer if she’s about to take a leap of faith.
I mean tell her if she has toilet paper stuck to her heel or food in her teeth. If you are afraid of hurting her feelings make sure you do it super nicely and be sure to not sound snarky at all. she should be thankful for it.
5. Don’t be the girl he cheats on her with! How would you feel if your significant other cheated on
you. It does not matter how cute he is not even how bad their relationship is, if he's still with her: don’t touch him. And besides it will save you heart ache in the future as we should all know that if a guy has cheated before he is more likely to cheat again. Once a cheater always a cheater.
6. Be the shoulder to cry on. When your bestie has had a bad day because she failed a test, had a bad day at work, her heart was just shattered, didn't get into university, just had a super
lousy day ect... Be there for her. We have to be there for each other because lets face it, sometimes guys just don’t understand. This is basic human instinct. Don’t tell me that when you see one of your friends is hurting inside it doesn’t rip you to shreds as well. So do the right thing and be there for her with a box of tissues and possibly even some disney princess movies.
7. If you see that one of your bestie’s is about to make a terrible mistake (i.e. take drugs, drink drive, sleep with a total jerk) set the red light and make sure she
see’s the sirens if all else fails tell her strait. She may be mad at you but she won’t be dead or heart broken and that’s just a risk you are going to have t make.
8. Listen when your friends tell you something’s not a good idea.
It may not always be what you wan’t to hear but unless they're saying “Another one, honey, I think you've had enough cookies for one month.” then they mean well. Also if they do say that to you, you have a toxic friend and you should get out of it while you still can.
9. If you see a girlwho is vulnerable, alone and in need of protection because she is drunk or in a worser circumstance be that protection. In a time where things like sexual abuse and drug trafficking is all too disgustingly real, we need to be there for our fellow woman more than ever. If she’s walking aimlessly on the street or washed up in the gutter don’t just leave her there. Get her a taxi or try and contact someone who knows her.
10. Do share lots of love and acceptance because at the end of the day we are all woman and we are all as important as the next girl.
11. Be accepting of who she is. We are all human! Race, sexuality, state and religion doesn't change that. I know loving people for who they are can be hard but that doesn't mean we can't all try. We can all stand together for peace and love and then one day hopefully the world would be a better place! Unless she's a crazy serial killer if she is you should probably call the police and run.
p.s happy Australia day beautiful’s, hope you are all having a great time! Lot’s of love, Bethany Loiterton.
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